Episode 197: Stop Being Nice, Start Being Kind with Darrin Johnson

In this solo episode, I challenge everything you thought you knew about leadership and communication. Are you being "nice" or are you actually being kind? Spoiler alert: there's a massive difference, and it's costing you credibility, power, and results.

I reveal why people-pleasing is sabotaging your leadership and provide a clear framework to become a Kind, Clear, and Assertive Leader: You'll learn:

• The critical distinction between "nice" (people-pleasing) and "kind" (people-growing)
• A quick diagnostic tool to determine if you’re too nice!
• Two micro-scripts you can use immediately to have difficult conversations with clarity and empathy
• The I Dare You Kindness Framework to become a Kind Leader
• Three non-negotiable rules that will transform how you lead

Whether you're leading a team, managing up, or navigating personal relationships, this episode gives you the tactical tools to stop avoiding hard conversations and start having them with dignity, respect, and results.

This episode will fundamentally change how you show up at work and in life.

The I Dare You “Kind Framework”: (Kind, Clear, Assertive)

Step 1: Prepare the truth (Give specific evidence)

Step 2: What is the impact? (Deliver in a calm, clear, and kind manner)

Step 3: Make the assertive ask (specific request - no fuzzy agreements)

Step 4: Set boundaries (Clear next steps / decisions of what happens next)

Step 5: Reinforce respect (affirm them / thank them)

Plus: Exclusive for I Dare You Podcast listeners: Grab 3 free custom PDFs (Effortless visual synopsis, workbook, and Be At Ease worksheet) at idareupod.com.

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